Quick answer: A ring bearer should wear a smaller version of what the groomsmen are wearing, adjusted for comfort. For most weddings, the easiest and most photogenic choice is a dress shirt, dress pants, a bow tie and suspenders set matched to the wedding colors, and comfortable dress shoes. For black-tie weddings, add a vest or a full suit.
What is the most popular ring bearer outfit?
The bow tie and suspenders look is the most popular ring bearer outfit today, and for good reason:
- It matches the groomsmen. Pick the same bow tie color as the groom's party, and the ring bearer instantly looks like part of the team.
- It's comfortable. No heavy jacket to take off halfway through the ceremony.
- It photographs well. A pop of color at chest height shows up clearly in group photos.
- It's affordable. Most families already own a white shirt and dark pants, so you only need the accessories.
Ring bearer outfit ideas by age
| Age | Recommended outfit | Why it works |
|---|---|---|
| 1–2 years | Bodysuit or soft shirt, bow tie with a strap or clip, elastic suspenders, soft-sole shoes | Easy diaper changes and nothing stiff or scratchy |
| 3–5 years | Dress shirt, chinos or dress pants, bow tie and suspenders set, dress shoes or loafers | The classic look, and easy to put on quickly before photos |
| 6–8 years | Bow tie and suspenders, or a vest and bow tie; optional jacket for formal weddings | Looks more grown-up while staying comfortable |
| 9+ years (junior groomsman) | Suit or vest that mirrors the groomsmen, necktie or bow tie, pocket square | Matches the adults for a polished wedding party |
How do you match a ring bearer to the wedding colors?
Match the bow tie to the groomsmen's ties or the bridesmaids' dresses, and choose suspenders in a neutral that matches the pants. Popular combinations include:
- Dusty blue bow tie with grey or navy suspenders
- Sage green bow tie with tan or brown leather suspenders
- Burgundy bow tie with charcoal suspenders
- Terracotta or cinnamon bow tie with brown leather suspenders for rustic and fall weddings
Not sure if the bow tie and suspenders should be the same color? Read our guide: Should bow ties and suspenders match?
What should a ring bearer wear to a beach or summer wedding?
Skip the jacket. A short-sleeve or linen shirt, light khaki pants or shorts, a bow tie and suspenders set, and sandals or loafers keep him cool. Light colors like ivory, blush, light blue and khaki look best outdoors.
What should a ring bearer wear to a formal or black-tie wedding?
Go with a black or navy suit or vest, a white dress shirt, a black or wedding-color bow tie, and polished dress shoes. Our boys' suits and vests come in sizes from 12 months up.
What shoes should a ring bearer wear?
Choose shoes he has already worn a few times so they're broken in. Leather loafers or dress shoes are best for photos; soft-sole moccasins work well for toddlers who are still unsteady walkers. Browse our boys' dress shoes.
Tips to keep the ring bearer comfortable (and happy)
- Do a practice run. Have him wear the full outfit at home for an hour the week before.
- Dress him last. Put the bow tie and suspenders on right before photos.
- Bring a backup shirt. Kids and wedding cake don't mix neatly.
- Choose adjustable pieces. Elastic suspenders and adjustable bow tie straps grow with him and stay put.
Frequently asked questions
How old should a ring bearer be?
Most ring bearers are between 3 and 8 years old. Children in this range are old enough to walk down the aisle on their own but young enough to look adorable doing it.
Should the ring bearer match the groomsmen?
Yes, in most weddings. Matching the bow tie or tie color to the groomsmen ties the whole wedding party together in photos.
Who pays for the ring bearer outfit?
Traditionally the ring bearer's parents pay for the outfit, though many couples buy the accessories (like the bow tie and suspenders) as a thank-you gift.
How far ahead should I order a ring bearer outfit?
Order at least 3–4 weeks before the wedding so there's time for a practice fitting. If your date is close, choose our rush order option at checkout.
Can I get a discount for the whole wedding party?
Yes. Buy 3 or more sets and save 10%, or 5 or more and save 15%. The discount is applied automatically at checkout.
Ready to shop? Browse our bow tie and suspender sets in newborn to adult sizes, so the ring bearer, groomsmen and groom can all match.
